I’m going out on a limb to say that everyone at one point in their lives had some idealization of what they one day hoped their relationship would be, whether they are currently in a committed relationship or not.

The truth of the matter is that several of us find ourselves far from where we hoped to be. Whether this is a good or a bad thing, it is important to understand where we are, how we got there and how to move forward.

Self-Reflection
As we grow and develop our dreams change, but the core of our goals will still remain true. Maybe when you were younger you had an idealistic dream of finding someone who “loved YOU for YOU”. Lo and behold, you find yourself with a friend—with-benefits who forgot about the “friends” part. Maybe you are single and happy at a time everyone thought you would have been married with kids. Wherever you are, realizing how you have changed is a crucial part of the growth process.

Healthy Objectives

Despite what you want in life—one goal should be true for anybody: find someone who treats you with respect. In a world that celebrates generational themes of “Netflix and chil” or “#wastehistime2016”, this idea of honoring another person as a fellow human being has somehow become so far removed from reality.

What are healthy goals that you can set today to guarantee relational success in your future?

Keep Setting Goals
Single, taken, or married—as we grow in our lives and as we reach certain milestones, it is important to reevaluate and set new goals. Have you found someone that respects you? How do you make sure both of you are respecting each other daily? How do you expect to grow together? Stay tuned for more blogs about goal-setting and personal growth!